Why Postpartum Feels So Hard in the U.S. (And What Other Cultures Do Differently)
What global postpartum traditions teach us about rest, nutrition, and why so many modern moms feel depleted.
March 5 , 2026
Today we’re going to play a game.
It’s called:
“Where would you have preferred to be postpartum?”
We’re taking a quick tour around the globe to look at postpartum traditions and then compare them to the U.S.
It’s going to be enlightening. Possibly rage-inducing. Let’s go.
Postpartum confinement traditions around the world
Across many cultures, postpartum is treated as a sacred healing window not a bounce-back challenge.
There’s a common thread:
Rest. Warm food. Elders. Support. Protection. Nourishment.
Let’s look at a few examples.
China: 30 days of “Lying In” (Zuò Yuè Zi)
China observes a 30-day confinement period called zuò yuè zi.
Mom stays in bed with baby.
Everyone else handles domestic tasks and older children.
New mom is fed:
Hot broths
Organ meats
Vegetables
Ginger and warming spices
This follows Traditional Chinese Medicine principles increasing “yang” through warmth to promote reproductive healing.
Paid maternity leave: 98 days minimum, often extended.
India: 40 days of Jaapa
In India, postpartum confinement lasts around 40 days.
The focus:
Warm foods
Ghee, milk, butter, fish
Tissue healing
Milk supply support
Female elders, mothers, MILs, aunties, care for the home and mother.
Paid maternity leave: 26 weeks.
Mexico & Latin America: La Cuarentena
In Mexico and other Latin American countries, the 40-day confinement is called La Cuarentena.
The postpartum body is considered “open” and vulnerable.
New moms are given:
Healing herbal teas
Nutrient-dense soups
Warm meals
Family and neighbors take over household duties.
Postpartum belly binding is common.
Paid maternity leave: 12 weeks (split pre and post birth).
Nigeria: Omugwo
In Nigeria, the tradition of Omugwo involves grandmothers caring for the new mom and household for about 40 days.
Moms receive:
Yam stews
Spicy, blood-flow-supporting foods
Sitz baths
Hands-on care
Paid maternity leave: 12–16 weeks.
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Europe
While traditional “lying in” practices are largely considered old-fashioned in many parts of Europe today, paid maternity leave remains substantial.
Average paid maternity leave across European nations: 26 weeks.
And then there’s the U.S.
well.
um.
bounce back?
6 wee... um. unpai--- FMLA?
LOLz nothing to see here! Hope you have a good job that actually gives you some time off, maybe even paid.
What these traditions have in common
This isn’t just about maternity leave (though yes, that matters).
The bigger point:
Traditionally, postpartum included built-in nutrition, rest, and support.
The first 30–90 days were understood as:
A time of intense healing
A time of massive calorie and nutrient needs
A time of deep rest requirements
And all of that is extremely difficult or impossible without support.
Why modern moms feel so depleted
For the most part, we are:
Doing this alone
Without structured help
Without education on how to eat or recover
Expected to “bounce back”
And this is a huge reason why the postpartum linger exists.
You know the feeling:
You can’t catch up from pregnancy and birth
Hormones feel chaotic
You’re exhausted years later
You’re wondering why you don’t feel like yourself
We look around and think:
How have women done this since the beginning of time?
The answer?
We haven’t done it like this.
Historically, moms were:
Mothered
Fed
Rested
Protected
Supported
And that allowed for faster and more complete recovery.
If you didn’t get a village
Especially to my U.S.-based moms who didn’t get paid leave (same 🙋♀️):
When you’re wondering why you can’t “get it together”…
Remember this:
Your body went through:
Pregnancy
Birth
Possibly breastfeeding
Sleep deprivation
Stress
Without structured recovery.
Of course you feel depleted.
That’s not a character flaw.
That’s physiology.
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It’s not too late to recover
Even if you missed that fourth-trimester window, the door to healing is not closed.
Recovery might look different now.
But it starts with:
Understanding what your body went through
Replenishing nutrients
Stabilizing stress and blood sugar
Supporting your hormones intentionally
Grace first. Then strategy.
Maybe the village isn’t gone. It just looks different.
If reading this made you think,
“Oh. That’s why I still feel depleted…” you’re not alone.
So many moms are trying to recover in isolation from something that was never meant to be done alone.
The Motherlode is where we rebuild what modern motherhood forgot to include:
Real conversations about hormones, depletion, and recovery
Education that explains what’s happening in your body
Community with other moms who get it
Support without shame or “bounce back” energy
It’s not confinement.
But it is connection.
And sometimes that’s the modern version of a village.
👉 Learn more about The Motherlode here.
xo
Alison
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